I recently started following a blog by a woman who goes by the name FitDarcie. While catching up on her archives, one blog in particular stood out to me, because it’s a subject that I’ve thought about awhile ago, and always meant to get around to blogging about.
Her blog was about how she, inadvertently, became a “stalker,” once:
The Day I Became A Stalker
Funny story. And it reminded me of a few of my favorite childhood movies that seem to give very bad messages. It’s funny how this stuff just totally flew over my head as a kid but, looking back, it’s so obvious. It’s also a sign of the times, in how media has changed.
There’s a scene where Fox’s character is trying to tell his best friend that he is a werewolf. As he’s trying to get it out, the friend pauses and says:
“Are you gonna tell me you’re a fag? Cause, if you’re gonna tell me you’re a fag…I don’t think I can handle that.”
Word is that there is a remake of this film in the works. I’ll bet you anything that that line does not appear in it now.
But going back to the movie at the beginning of this blog. Say Anything, starring John Cusack and Ione Skye. One of my top 10 films, I remember my uncle Joe taking me to see this in the Beverly Center, one weekend.
Without getting into a long review, let me just say that Cusack & Skye’s characters start dating, and then she dumps him at the urging of her father. And then we see that he calls her 8 times, despite her not returning his calls, and (as seen in the iconic pose in the poster and dvd cover) he stands outside her bedroom window, holding up the radio, blasting a song (“In Your Eyes” by Peter Gabriel, one of my all-time favorite songs).
Now, the excessive phone calls are bad enough, but standing outside her window like that, certainly that constitutes stalking, right? In real life, her father would have called the cops on him.
An even worse example of stalking in a “romantic” movie from my childhood is Valley Girl.
This is the film that jump-started my lifelong, completely heterosexual, man-love for Nicolas Cage. This is a similar storyline of a young couple from opposite social backgrounds, who fall in love, until the girl breaks up with the guy due to social pressure.
In this case, Cage’s character literally stalks her. He follows her on other dates (when she got back with her ex), to the movies and to a drive-in diner, camps out in a sleeping bag outside her bedroom window, and then even crashes her senior prom.
It’s just funny to look back and realize how blatantly wrong this behavior would be considered in real life, yet in these films it’s supposed to be romantic. These heartbroken guys are fighting for love. And it works! In each case, the girls end up taking the guys back.
So, that’s the message guys, if a girl dumps you but you still want her, just follow her around, and keep calling her, even park outside her bedroom if you have to, until she gives you another chance.